I’ve been with him for 4 and a bit years we have a child together.
We haven’t been going the best for a while but I dont know if i should consider this a form of cheating?
Porn is one thing, as much as I dnt like that I understand it, but dating sites??
I’ve confronted him a while ago about things like this and he doesn’t react very well. Can get pretty angered about the whole thing. I just dont understand it? Or what i am meant to do!
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I think he is telling you that it is time to move on, since he already is.
LEAVE! Find someone that treats you good, like a princess. You deserve better than that!
ASk him, WHAT THE HELL!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
Tell him how you feel about it.Tell him, he’s disrespecting your relationship,you DON’T LIKE WHAT HE’S DOING.
I wouldn’t worry about the Internet dating sites. Have you ever seen pictures of the people at those sites. If he gets hooked up with someone from one of those sites, You’re better off without him.
He gets mad about it because he feels guilty and he knows he’s doing something wrong. Pack up yourself and your child and leave, and leave him a note saying that as soon as he gets off of those dating sites, he can call you and you might be available to talk and you might not be.
Is it salvageable? Join the same dating site and see if you match up! If you do, see if you can have another go at it; if not, then it is probably time to move on. Sorry.
I’m going to assume that with a four year reltionship and a kid you can talk about stuff in the open. If that is correct, you should directly (not aggressively) ask what you’re doing or not doing that is making him look for a back up plan (since that’s what he’s doing). From there you could try to negotiate (not attack eachother with situations and habits), decide to call it quits, or if it doesn’t bother you, change what he wants you to change. The last one is ineresting since it depends on how reasonable the request is. He simply might just not be your soul mate, chemically compatible, whatever term people want to use. He might be worse (someone who uses you). You need to weigh those possibilities when you hear his requests. He might also be looking for a back up plan which is what it looks like to me. If it turns out it won’t work, don’t try to prolong an inevitable break up, it will only hurt you both more. If your attached to someone who doesn’t love you, than you should break up and gain some bearing over your mind before trying it again. Nothing wrong with your mind, it just needs to settle out the drama from the reality.
you join a dating site and see how he likes it.
Take out your own ads.
“If you like pina coladas, and getting caught in the rain…”
If he gets angry at that then you just hit a nerve start talking to him about it again and this time don’t stop until you bring him down to your level and then start talking about it more smoothly and more calmly and resolve the situation together.