Would you date a guy who smokes marijuana everyday?
and spends $150 a week (medicinal marijuana so its more expensive), but he’s functional, has a great job and is cute?
He also doesnt really NEED it, he doesnt have aids or cancer. He just likes to get high. He’s also 35.
What are the pros and cons?
Also, I don’t smoke either.
Advice On Dating A Habitual Marijuana Smoker?
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If he uses drugs and the issue is whether to date him, face it, he is not going to be a responsible husband or parent. Lose him.
However, if you were married to him my advice would be to have an intervention. If you are married you just don’t walk away without trying EVERYTHING to get your spouse to stop (that is what for better or for worse means). Obviously his behavior has been noticed or is known by others. An intervention (with a trained professional) will make him come face to face with his problem before his family, friends and trusted co-workers. You should not be married if you don’t love your spouse enough to have an intervention (e.g. it means you really don’t care enough to try). Granted you are not married. But, you posted this question in the marriage and divorce section.
Let me assure you, there is nothing wrong with this man. Nothing wrong with pot either.
Pros: Marijuana won’t kill you like siggs.
He’s totally chill and he doesn’t stress about meaningless things
Doing it yourself is pretty awesome and fun and funny. It doesn’t make him a bad person, or less intelligent. I find my brain to be more active when I’m high. I have these amazing moments of clarity where answers come to me and I know what to do.
Cons: This activity doesn’t really get you involved uless you so choose to. That’s ok too.
The most simple way to put it:: If weed/ THC (the cemichal in weed that gets you high) was bad for you, your body wouldn’t store the excess in your fat cells.
* doesn’t cause cancer
* doesn’t kill braincells
It’s totally and completely ok for you and him.
He sounds like a great guy! And he knows what good weed is.
good luck!
How is he getting medicinal marijuana when he doesn’t have a condition that requires it? Sounds odd. Anyway, there are no pros to staying with someone who does this for no legitimate reason. I was with someone for years who did it. He promised to quit, and I had believed him. After we broke up he confessed that he never had quit. That sure explained a lot. There are tons of cons. He will get moodier. There will never be any money because he will get more and more addicted to it. He will become less motivated to do anything constructive with his life. Talking to him will be like talking to a wall. His health will decline and he will gain lots of weight. Eventually you will come to resent it. My advice would be to get out while you can.
well, if you dont agree with it, dont date him. if you are ok with it, then date him….
i dont see the issue honestly. it just got legalized in brickenridge (sp?) colorado, im sure more will follow…
when i met my now husband, he smoked all the time too. i smoked on occasion. he’s always had a great job. he doesnt smoke anymore because his job started drug testing, and he would rather continue to hold a good job and care for his family than smoke.
so i guess, it comes down to this- if you were wanting to get serious with this guy, and someething came up where had to choose between weed and (other issue), what would he choose? if he puts the weed before you or kids or a job etc, then yeah, dont date him.
I would not even consider dating someone like you describe. One of the main reasons for dating is to get to know someone for the possibility of a long term relationship and/or marriage. I would not in a million years consider a 35 year old drug addict as the possible future spouse or possible future father of my children – no matter how cute he is or what kind of job he has.
I am a smoker and have dated lots of men who were not. They were very accepting of it. Although I have always had a job, and paid my own way, and have an active life style. It is one thing to smoke weed it is another to do it to the point that you are a total burn out. I guess it depends on the individual and their personal habits. You are the only one who knows him so you will have to weigh the pros and cons.
I wouldn’t date one if I didn’t smoke. You are just asking for constant arguing.
pros- always giggly and submissive
cons- lack of motivation, tips the scale at 250 b/c of constant snacking, money spent on weed, excessive video game use….
If he’s okay in his life, there really isn’t a problem. i don’t mind if my man smokes pot, hell I even take a hit once in a while….
That’s a good question. People spend alot of liqueur and cigarettes. Everyone has their vice. I just think that $150 a week for one person is quite alot. The most I’d spend during the week is $50 and that’s for 2 people. I usually can’t if I have to get up early for work n whatnot, so that may even last 2 weeks.
As long as he is still a responsible adult and goes to work, pays his bills, I would say give it a shot. If he is a bum and sits on his *** all day I would say get out while you can!!
I did for 7 years. I was okay with it for the first few years but ended up breaking up with him because of it. I was working 2 jobs and giving him rides everywhere he had to go and was sick of it. It’s also hard to have a good conversation with someone when they are high all the time and you are not. It was like he stayed mentally 17 forever. I still talk to him sometimes even though we broke up 6 years ago and he hasn’t changed a bit.
You say its medicinal marijuana, what does that mean? If he is paying for it, can I assume, its just good weed and not directed by a doctor? IDK, its up to you. What are your pros and cons? I don’t see nothing wrong with it, some will, some won’t. You won’t find your answer here, the pros and cons must come from you my dear, because you love him and he is yours.
If he doesn’t need it, then how did he get the medicinal marijuana card to buy it? Did he make up a medical condition just to buy pot?
Thats ridiculous… if you don’t do it, and he does it everyday.. then thats a conflict of lifestyles that will eventually cause problems in a relationship.
Hes 35 years old? Come on. That just shows that hes still immature and doesn’t have his priorities in line. People who smoke weed say its no big deal but the fact of the matter is, its illegal. Don’t be surprised if one day he slips up and ends up getting caught with it. You shouldn’t have to deal with that kind of sh.it from someone you’re dating.
1. No.
2. What a waste of money!
Yay for him for being functional.
I’m glad they don’t have drug tests where he works or he’d be hosed.
Irrelevant.
3. Loser.
4. Con: I don’t respect him. Pro: He’s happy with his life.
I have no tolerance for druggies in my life. Due to past family problems with drugs my tolerance for such things is zero. If other people want to put up with it, fine, but not me.
He’s a first class loser, he probably has a 14 y/o mental age!!
You like talking to potheads? they laugh for nothing, they don’t remember what you say, they don’t care about anything…………and about all those people he risks killing while he’s driving under the influence cause remember he smokes EACH DAY.
hmmmmmmmmmm…..depends. i guess you could try it..maybe he just likes to have fun but thats a lot of money to spend on weed and weed isnt that exciting. plus it probly makes him lazy….i guess the pros to it is im sure you get to help him smoke the weed and if you like weed then HEY great! its free weeeeeeeeeed! so it just depends what you are into. atleast hes cute and has a job…nobodys perfect
Advice? Stop dating him. He’s getting high to get high, that’s all. He may be cute now, but in ten years he’s going to look like six miles of bad road, probably be unemployed, and barely able to form a coherent sentence.
I grew up in the seventies. Take my word for this. He’s going to be trouble.
Why wouldn’t you date him? If he doesn’t smoke enough to adversely affect his life, what’s the problem. The only “con” is that in addition to the $150 he spends on pot, he’ll also need to have a $200 per week budget for Cheetos and Oreo cookies!
go him!
he’s functional, has a great job; what’s wrong with that?
as long as he treats you right, and your happy?
you can’t knock it if you haven’t tried it.
I’d rather be around someone who smoked pot everyday than someone who drinks all the time.
Pros: he will appreciate your cooking
Cons: he will have short term memory complications
So if he’s functional, cute and has a great job, there should be no problem. If you don’t condone smoking pot then you shouldn’t date someone who does.
PRO: It is legal for him to smoke. He shows no signs of deteriorating or doing other addictive drugs.
CON: I wouldn’t want kids around it, since it is illegal for most people
Always keep a large supply of munchies on hand & try not to kill his buzz ’cause you don’t smoke.
He’s not so smart though. He spends $5800.00 a year on weed. That’s about $8000.00 before uncle Sam gets his share.
Nothing wrong with smoking weed. People don’t toke up and then beat their spouse or anything
up to you…you’re the only one who can say if that bugs you or not
stock up on snack food, visine, rolling papers, bong cleaner, funny DVD’s, and Pink Floyd and you’ll be fine
Advice is dump this guy don’t date a doper. hes a druggie any way that you look at it.
I would.
If you don’t smoke and disagree with it then you shouldn’t.. Don’t bring down his high
Nope I sure would not be dating this person.
if i didn’t have to worry about piss testing at work i’d still be getting high and i’m 48
no way